What I Learned Sunday – I Know Nothing – Father’s Day

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“…as you move through this life, and this world, you change things slightly, you leave marks behind, however small. And in return, life and travel leaves marks on you. Most of the time, those marks on your body, or your heart are beautiful. Often though, they hurt…” ~ Anthony Bourdain

After 42 years, I’m honest enough to say, ‘I know nothing.’ Life happens the way it is supposed, and it may not develop as you decided to plan out. There were days that I sought out certain goals and places in my life…a route that I had full control of. Times before, I was the great and cool uncle. I’ve experienced devotion and love in that role, from calming my nieces, to travel vast distances regularly to see their development from an infant to a toddler and adolescent. I don’t know what it is to be a father. To stand there in awe as my child is being born. To face my insecurities as I try guide this precious life in the right direction and not project what I want onto them.

Each day, I’m learning what it feels like to be a father. I’m about 2.5 to 3 years late, but to marvel at this young life. There is nothing that melts your heart like a 3 year old telling you she ‘loves you,’ nor is there pain like when she cries when you leave on an airplane after telling her that ‘the last time you left, was the last time that you were going to leave.’

I easily remember a time that I said that I was ‘lucky,’ to be corrected that I was ‘blessed.’ This little girl has blessed, and remanufactured our lives in ways that can not be explained. As I right this, I’m her jungle gym…among other things.

On this Father’s Day, I can’t tell you that I understand my parents, or my father. I surely can’t tell you that I’m experienced or an expert on this, I learn multiple new things each day. I’m wowed by the person she is, daily, and I’ve learned a new type of love. Everyday I’m thankful.

The manuscript Blue Lines is the fictional coming of age narrative of a young California woman Key Yemaya Walker, and her 2 year growing journey through school, love, and life period piece, written by Kenneth Suffern, Jr., taking place at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill between the years of 1997 – 1998. Loosely based on true events, and experiences during that time, told through the eyes and voice of the main female protagonist, a freshman first attending the school

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What I Learned Sundays – Father’s Day 2013

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Father’s Day:
Each day that we have to celebrate our Father’s (parents) is a fortunate day. My Father turned 78 last Wednesday, and had the opportunity to have his 38th Father’s Day shared with his youngest son, a Father, and his only Grandchild.

Great day!!!

The manuscript Blue Lines is the fictional coming of age narrative of a young California woman Key Yemaya Walker, and her 2 year growing journey through school, love, and life period piece, written by Kenneth Suffern, Jr., taking place at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill between the years of 1997 – 1998. Loosely based on true events, and experiences during that time, told through the eyes and voice of the main female protagonist, a freshman first attending the school.

Cover Sundays – Sia – “Oh Father” Madonna Cover

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The manuscript Blue Lines is the fictional coming of age narrative of a young California woman Key Yemaya Walker, and her 2 year growing journey through school, love, and life period piece, written by Kenneth Suffern, Jr., taking place at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill between the years of 1997 – 1998. Loosely based on true events, and experiences during that time, told through the eyes and voice of the main female protagonist, a freshman first attending the school

New To You Music Sundays – Emeli Sande – “Daddy”

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The manuscript Blue Lines is the fictional coming of age narrative of a young California woman Key Yemaya Walker, and her 2 year growing journey through school, love, and life period piece, written by Kenneth Suffern, Jr., taking place at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill between the years of 1997 – 1998. Loosely based on true events, and experiences during that time, told through the eyes and voice of the main female protagonist, a freshman first attending the school

What I Learned Sundays – Stuff and Father’s

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What did I learn?
I learned that some things are clearer.
I know that I want to be a Father.
I know what I want.
I’m willing to fail.
That’s it…kinda caught off guard, and have some Father’s Day items to tend to.

The manuscript Blue Lines is the fictional coming of age narrative of a young California woman Key Yemaya Walker, and her 2 year growing journey through school, love, and life period piece, written by Kenneth Suffern, Jr., taking place at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill between the years of 1997 – 1998. Loosely based on true events, and experiences during that time, told through the eyes and voice of the main female protagonist, a freshman first attending the school.

Blue Lines Blog: Give Father’s their Father’s Day

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At first I thought to write my “What I Learned Sundays,” Blog Post about the phases of Father-hood that I’ve known. Whether it be my Father’s process, that of my late Cuban Grand Father, or even thoughts on my brother and his first Father’s Day. But then after reading one of many posts that happened to be followed by a discussion, I had to change my focus.

I am guilty of this too, and I actually had second thoughts prior to making my initial post on facebook, but I was overly surprised about how when someone mentions “Father’s Day,” the common comment and/or statement is “for all the Father’s that are doing there job, and the Mother’s who are being ‘Father’s’ for their children. As someone pained that at 35, I am not a Father, it is sad that Mother’s Day is allowed to be a day of celebration, however Father’s Day is always served with an asterisk, for those who are being Father’s. There are even “Father’s Day” cards for Mothers. I love Mother’s, and I celebrate Mother’s Day in earnest, however while allowed to be supported by most schools systems still being in session, and a super Hallmark Holiday, Father’s Day falls in June, with no promotion and served with giving ties, or some non-essential gift.